June 29, 2024  by Linda Wattier
June 29, 2024  by Linda Wattier

Our twenty-first-century world is complex and fast-paced. At the same time, women in the second half of life are going through multiple transitions.

Not to mention the strain of growing older in an anti-aging culture.

It's no wonder we sometimes feel overwhelmed.

What if there was a single question that could cut through the noise and guide us toward a simpler life?

For a few years now, I've been asking myself a question that does precisely that.

This four-word question gives me a consistent lens through which to view life circumstances, reducing decision fatigue and complexity.

It aligns with my highest values and connects me more deeply with others and myself, simplifying moral and ethical dilemmas.

It moves me from reactive, fear-based decisions and behaviors to mindful, compassion-based choices.

In a world that often seems driven by fear and division, asking this question is a revolutionary act:

What Would Love Do?

We usually think of Love as an emotion we experience or a bond we share with someone close to us. But Love is so much more than that. It's the source energy of everything and the essence of your being.

Love with a capital "L" encompasses compassion, kindness, empathy, understanding, forgiveness, and acceptance. It's the force that connects us all and seeks the highest good for everyone (including yourself.)

It's dynamic and alive — the most potent, extraordinary force in the universe. You can access it at any moment by slowing down, taking a deep breath, and tuning into the vitality of your heart.

Light is to darkness what love is to fear; in the presence of one, the other disappears.

— Marianne Williamson —

By consistently pausing to ask yourself, "What would Love do?" you begin to rewire your default reactions.

This doesn't mean you become a pushover or ignore real problems. It means you approach challenges with calm, clarity, and wisdom.

The Life-Simplifying Benefits

When not operating from a place of Love, we often default to fear. Fear can look like anxiety, anger, jealousy, resentment, and other negative emotions that complicate our inner landscapes and lead us astray.

By consciously choosing Love over fear, we are rewarded with many benefits, including:

Better prioritization: It helps quickly identify what matters, cutting through less important concerns or distractions.

Emotional clarity: Focusing on Love calms emotional turbulence and provides a clearer perspective in challenging situations.

Reduced overthinking: Instead of endlessly analyzing pros and cons, this question often leads to an intuitive, values-based solution.

More effective communication: Approaching interactions with Love leads to more direct, honest, and compassionate communication.

Fewer regrets: Making decisions based on Love leads to choices we're less likely to second-guess later.

More precise life purpose: It aligns our actions with a higher purpose, providing a more coherent narrative for our lives.

So, the next time you find yourself in a difficult situation or have an important decision to make, pause, breathe, and ask yourself: "What would Love do?"

The answer may surprise you, and it just might change your life.

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About Linda Wattier

Founder and Bold Wellbeing Coach at How She Thrives. I help women over fifty design their most authentic, meaningful, and fulfilling experience of midlife and beyond.

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