For the past few issues of the newsletter, I’ve been writing about something that doesn’t get talked about nearly enough: the disorientation that can settle in during the second half of life. That feeling of not quite recognizing yourself anymore. The slow realization that some of the scripts we’ve been following were never really ours. And the question underneath it all: How do I actually want to feel?
Not every woman experiences this. But for those who do, it can be deeply unsettling. And deeply lonely, because it doesn’t look like a crisis from the outside. It looks like a good life. It just doesn’t feel like yours.
When Insight Isn’t Enough
Here’s something I’ve noticed, in my own life and from women I’ve worked with or who’ve written to me: There’s a real gap between recognizing that you’ve lost contact with yourself and actually hearing your own voice again. The first is an insight. The second is a practice. And most of us were never taught the practice part.
I hear from women all the time who say something like, “I can feel that something wants to change. I just can’t quite reach it.” They’ve done the reflecting. They’ve identified the patterns. And still, when they try to hear their own voice, what comes back is empty silence. Or the same old “shoulds” disguised as something new. That’s not failure. It makes perfect sense.
We’ve spent decades becoming fluent in everyone else’s needs and expectations. In the language of achievement. Of course, our own voice sounds unfamiliar at first. It hasn’t had much airtime. And the noise of the world right now isn’t making it any easier to hear.
What I Made—and Who It’s For
Many of you have written to me about exactly this—that sense of standing at a threshold but not quite being able to cross it. You told me you wanted something you could do. Not more insight. Not another framework. A way in.
So I created a free practice guide called Coming Home to Yourself, designed to help you hear your own voice beneath all the noise.
It won’t overhaul your life. It’s not trying to. It’s trying to help you stay in contact with who you are—even for a few minutes. Because that’s where everything begins to shift.
If this doesn’t speak to where you are right now, no need to do a thing. But if something in you recognizes what I’m describing—that quiet hum of I’ve lost the thread of myself—this practice is for you.
Why This Matters Now
There’s a reason this work feels urgent for the women who feel it. We’re not twenty-five anymore, building a life from scratch with decades of runway. We’re in the second half. We know how fast time moves. And we know what it costs to keep deferring ourselves.
But urgency isn’t the same as rushing. This practice is quiet. It asks you to slow down, not speed up. To listen before you act.
That might feel like not enough. But I’ll tell you what I’ve seen: The shift doesn’t come from the grand gesture. It comes from the Tuesday morning when you sit with a question and, for the first time, you hear something you didn’t expect. Something that’s yours.
Try It. Then Tell Me What You Notice.
Download Coming Home to Yourself and give it a few days. Not to judge it or evaluate whether it’s “working.” Just to see what happens when you give your own voice a little room.
And if something shifts—even slightly—I’d love to hear about it. Hit reply and tell me what you noticed. What surprised you. What felt true.
These conversations are some of my favorites. You don’t need to have it figured out. You just need to be willing to say what’s real.
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