We're a diverse group here at How She Thrives, ranging in age from our 40s to 70s, but we have plenty of things in common.
One of the most significant is that we're all dealing with personal or professional challenges in the second half of life.
We're experiencing all kinds of transitions and loss unique to this life stage— youth, fertility, cherished dreams, careers, children leaving home, the illness and death of loved ones (human and animal), estrangement from adult children, horrendous relationship endings, declining health—to name but a few.
Let's be honest. It's stressful.
Which is why I'm constantly researching ways to help us enhance our resilience skills.
In my last newsletter, I shared five proven ways to thrive amidst life's challenges. If you missed that one, you can read it here.
After facing true adversity — the kind that leaves you with heart-wrenching pain and sleepless nights — bouncing back to a previous normal may not be an option. Sometimes, the only viable path is moving forward into a new normal while carrying the grief with you.
As promised, here are five more ways to boost your resilience, especially while moving forward into a new normal:
Practice Mindfulness and Stress Reduction
Incorporate mindfulness practices into your daily routine, such as meditation, deep breathing exercises, or yoga. Mindfulness promotes calm and focus, reducing stress and providing clarity in everyday life and when facing hard times.
Getting Started with Mindfulness | Mindful Communications
The Untethered Soul | Bookshop
Wherever You Go, There You Are | Bookshop
Foster a Positive Internal Narrative
Challenge negative self-talk and cultivate a mindset that emphasizes optimism. A positive and supportive self-narrative means that you believe in yourself. You believe in your ability to recover from setbacks, adapt to change, and keep going in the face of adversity.
Using Learned Optimism In Your Life | Very Well Mind
Engage in Personally Meaningful Activities
Find meaning and purpose in activities that align with your values. We can feel purposeful about things like family, friends, occupation, and health. But volunteer work, creative pursuits, or involvement in community initiatives can also provide a sense of fulfillment, contributing to our resilience.
What Makes Life Meaningful? | Pew Research Center
Man's Search for Meaning | Bookshop
The Power of Meaning | Bookshop
Set Realistic Goals
Establishing realistic and achievable goals promotes a sense of purpose and accomplishment. Break down larger tasks into smaller steps, celebrating milestones along the way. Goal-setting builds confidence by creating a roadmap for success.
The Golden Rules of Goal Setting | Mind Tools
Seek Professional Guidance
When faced with significant life challenges, seeking professional guidance through coaching or therapy can be transformative. Helping professionals can provide tools and strategies to navigate difficulties, fostering emotional wellbeing and a resilient spirit.
Remember, embracing vulnerability and reaching out for help when needed is a sign of strength, not weakness.
How to Find a Great Therapist | Nick Wignall
What Life Coaching Is (and What It Isn't) | BetterUp
My life transitions over the last ten years have provided plenty of resilience practice—my husband's retirement and various health issues, a highly stressful move followed by the COVID-19 pandemic, and moving my parents into assisted living last year.
Today, I'm researching long-term care facilities for my parents, as they have both been officially diagnosed with dementia and are deteriorating fast. It's heartbreaking.
Midlife and beyond is truly the best and worst of times. And, as a friend recently reminded me, we can "get shit done and thrive despite the many obstacles life hurls our way."
So when life throws you a curveball, call on your resilience, remind yourself that this is just AFGO (another effing growth opportunity), and move forward with as much grace as you can muster.
I'll be over here rooting for you.
Learning to Love Midlife
One of the things midlife is meant to do for us is to create a seize-the-day perspective on life. How can we live our lives in a way that feels consciously curated? When you get very clear on what matters to you and edit what doesn’t matter, you can better access your purpose and flourish.
Midlife Isn't a Crisis—It's a Calling | Sunday Paper
Fight Right: How Successful Couples Turn Conflict Into Connection
Our happiness and well-being, in large part, rely on the strength of our connections. But as far as romantic relationships go, healthy partnerships are not always easy to find and can be challenging to maintain.
John and Julie Gottman, psychologists and founders of The Gottman Institute explain what to do—and what to avoid—so your arguments actually make your relationship stronger.
How to Fight Without Hurting Your Relationship | Greater Good Science Center
How to Talk With Your Parents About Scam Safety
Scams against older adults are crimes of opportunity that exploit vulnerability and technology to siphon your parent’s savings. The extent of the monetary loss can devastate your parent’s financial security and independence.
And the shame many older scam victims carry can dramatically affect their emotional and mental health. That’s why discussing scam awareness and prevention with your parent is essential.
It Can Happen to Any of Us | My Aging Parents
Imagine AI Custom-Trained on Who You Want to Be and How to Take Care of Yourself
At the moment, the AI conversation is focused on how to align AI with human values. But the possibility that wise woman Arianna Huffington, founder of Thrive Global, is most excited about isn’t how AI can become more human — it’s how it can help humans become more human.
How AI Can Help Humans Become More Human | On My Mind
The Many Types of Grief and Loss and How to Cope
Coping with the loss of someone or something you love is one of life’s biggest challenges. Once you reach midlife and beyond, you’ve likely experienced your fair share of loss and heartbreak.
Whatever type of loss you’ve suffered, there’s no right or wrong way to grieve. But by understanding the stages and types of grief, you can find healthier ways to cope.
Coping With Grief and Loss | HelpGuide
Little Bits of Light
Words to open your heart and SOOTHE YOUR SOUL
Photos by: "Grodfoto" at shutterstock (#1) & Linda Wattier (#2)